What I Want To Get Out Of Holidays

Holidays or vacations are great things. If used properly they can help you recharge and recoup. This, of course, is based on the assumption that you’ve been working hard and need the time out.

Both our physical and mental energies need restoration often. Balance is a myth. Healthy tensions in normal (whatever that is), everyday life are necessary for us to always do and enjoy life at its best.

 

Thus, we need a break everyday (coffee, lunch), in the week (weekends), month and so on… Holidays are a bigger part of that cycle. So, public holidays and such are a great time to score on down time and recoup.

That being said, this is what I like to get out of holidays or vacation:

Rest

I think this is the biggest one for me and most people. The challenge is doing something so that you’re not bored during the downtime. Also, I don’t want to plan so much activity that I’m tired and need another holiday to recover from my holiday.

The goal of holidays is that you recoup [Click to Tweet]

Rest is doing nothing. Not only that, rest is also activity that fills up and restores you. [Click to Tweet]

At the end of a holiday I want to be so revitalised and energised I’m actually looking forward to work.

Reflection

Often, when on holiday, this seems to happen automatically. It must be something to do with just slowing down. Often we’re too busy running that some important things are lost in a blur.

A great holiday is one I’ve managed to slow down enough that reflection happens ‘uncaused’. Often reflection gives purpose to effort. We don’t always see the full value of our efforts while in activity.

Reflection is not just about the past. It is also peering into the future. Distilled or clouded, thinking about the future in an unstructured way is the start of clarifying goals and actions post vacation.

Holidays should help us start again with renewed purpose [Click to Tweet]

Outro

Being aware of what you get out of your ‘downtime’ helps you structure or plan your time. It helps me (and you) keep in sight things that need to be factored in or out.

I’ll be intentional with my holidays. I’ve come to understand and appreciate the connection between rest and productivity. Living life in its fulness is not just about looking for an out from my work.

My work is not also the totality of my life. Holidays are an important part of managing the tension. Managing full life and leadership.

What things do you hope to get out of your holidays?

Things You’re Might Be Overlooking As You Chase Your Dream

I might be so bad with blind spots that my blind spots have their own blind spots. Whether we admit it, we all have blind spots. Some are character flaws. Others are a product of our circumstance and focus.

Focus intentionally and unintentionally creates blind spots. As we chase dreams and the mission, we have to choose what becomes important. We choose to be blind to some things.

Then there are things that we can lose sight of because of the chase. Though we find meaning and fulfillment in our chase, we’re at our most vulnerable. A lot of things will fade away…

Things You're Might Be Overlooking As You Chase Your Dream

While you chase your ‘dream, passion’ or whatever you call it, you’re likely to overlook

Our pursuits make us blind [Click to Tweet]

The Present

Dream pursuit is inherently future oriented. It is our attempt to get ‘make it’ or get ‘there’. However clear or illusive our  “there” is. Often “there” is both a destination and journey.

As you pursue, your “there” don’t lose sight of the present. Dreamers tend to live in the future, so, remember that you’re alive today, now. Here, now.

Remember the present. Find something to savour today. Now.

Obscurity


Obscurity is often a reality (even for a season) for all dream-chasers. The “big break” is never really a big break. It is chance bolsters by hard work; how does the saying go?: blood sweat, swearing and tears?

Because you’re obscurity doesn’t mean you need to overlook excellence. One of the most fatal mistakes you could ever make is think that you’ll pay attention to some things after you ‘make it’. Big mistake.

Don’t overlook excellence because no one is looking [Click to Tweet]

For more on obscurity check out this awesome post, there’s also this one and ah, this one. Do it!

Fun

You don’t have to be miserable and boring while you’re chasing your dream. Boring and insufferable or intolerable isn’t synonymous with being serious about your dream.

You don’t have to be a jerk, to yourself and others, when chasing your dream. Do some mindless things just for the fun of it. This is even more important when you’re not chasing your dream on a full-time basis.

If you have the privilege of chasing your dream for a living, whatever that is, fun will help rid you of bore and keep your interest piqued. You need to have good distractions from your work.

One Piece

All your pursuit is useless and wasted if you can’t get “there” intact. This means being healthy in a holistic sense. That is, your physical health, relationships, mental and emotional state.

Nothing takes away from a dream like losing other important things and ‘making it’. Take care of yourself and those that matter most in your life. Make time for them. Nothing is as sweet as having people you care the most about share in your success.

When you take care of yourself you’re able to actually enjoy “arriving”. Again, if you’re not chasing your dream on a full-time basis, chances are you take time from work to work on your dream. This means that you never fully rest; you’re faculties are constantly engaged.

This means you never get to really rest. Your dream is yours, but it is not more important than you. Take time out to rest even from the chase. You’ll be refreshed and when you return to it you will see that you fed your hunger to succeed even more.

Crux

Be clear about what you are going to overlook intentionally as you chase your dreams. Constantly ask, “What am I missing or overlooking?” Perhaps engage those closest to you. The goal is to enjoy the journey, be intact and arrive intact to enjoy your dream fully [Click to Tweet].

All the best!

There’s A Wrong Way Of Being Right

I’ve said it before, the truth is a beautiful thing. Nothing taints truth like delivery it with malice and egotistical motives. In both life and leadership we tend to place a high value on it, if it is on our side. I don’t know anyone who loves being ‘wrong’.

Because of this, we all have the capacity to go to great lengths to justify our ‘wrong’, when it is clear we are. It just sucks to be the one who made the wrong call, causing a launch, product or project fail. Even in the most gracious, trust filled and kind environments it takes a lot of strength and courage to admit our part in the failure of an enterprise.

wrong way of being right

Though a virtue, some see vulnerability as weakness and incompetence. On the contrary, it takes more courage to acknowledge failure, than it does to justify it.

Coming back to truth… Everyone wants to have truth on his or her side. However, there are times, guaranteed, that we are right and others aren’t. Or vice versa.

Being ‘right’, for all its worth is not a license for perpetuating wrong [Click to Tweet]. I say this because there is a wrong way of being right.

Smear

Some people just want to be right for the sake of it. It is like winning a battle in which you gain nothing by winning. You are right… so what? Rubbing it in the face of those you do life with or serve on a team may gratify you and stroke your ego.

Some ways of ‘being right’ damage relationships in the long-term (Click to Tweet)

Resist the temptation, as the result is likely to be damage to relationships in the long-term.

Nasty

Being right is not license to be nasty. Being rude is a wrong way of being right. Often when this happens, attention shifts to ill attitudes displayed and not issues at hand.

Don’t lose common courtesy because you’re right (Click to Tweet)

Keep in mind that the win should be for relationship and the mission. Being nasty or mean only serves the one who’s right and no one else. Relationships are fractured and missions undermined.

Told You

It can feel good to have been right when things on the overall are wrong and broken. It is just being human. Resist playing the famous, “I told you so” card. That doesn’t fix anything.

Your focus should never be who was right or wrong, but moving forward to realising mission. I say this often: Don’t be a jerk.

“I told you so” never fixed anything (Click to Tweet)

Think and act ‘mission and solutions’. That alone, should be the focus. When perspectives differ, it should be because of the mission being first and not fueling ego trips.

Thus

Being ‘right’, for all its worth is not a license for perpetuating wrong [Click to Tweet]

When you’ve been right and everyone else not, be mature about it. Don’t rub it in anyone’s face, be courteous and focus on solutions going forward. By doing so, you keep and strengthen relationships and continue focused on mission.

A Different Kind Of Lovely Weather

Don’t curse the change in weather…

After what seems to be endless blue sky days, this! Somehow I’m loving the weather this morning. It could just be because it’s cooler. Some rain would be very welcome too…

Change is not always bad. Different weather (conditions), for instance, produces different things. I tend to have more energy and feel more like writing on days like this.

Not that I don’t feel like writing on other days, it is just that some environments inspire something others don’t.

Don’t curse the change in weather.

How I Recharge On The Weekend

Just saw this question posed on Twitter and I thought, “that’s not something that I’ve explicitly blogged about!”. An interesting note: earlier today someone was talking about how “introverts reacharge this way and extrovert the other…”. I tried to box myself as either but I think I’m almost an even mix of both.

While I love people, sometimes I get recharged by being with them and almost in the same proportion, solitude and silence recharges me.

How I Recharge On The Weekend

Before I take off on a tangent let me reign myself…

I recharge a number of ways on the weekend:

Writing

Writing is one of the ways I recharge. Because it is something that demands that I, in a sense, collect myself, it helps me get a pulse of my internal world. Like I’ve said before, sometimes I don’t know what I’m thinking until I write.

Besides writing for my blogs (here, this one and this one), I try to journal. I don’t do so as much as I’d like but now and then as I reflect, I journal.

Home

Being at home with Ingrid and just chilling, does me some good. Making breakfast (bacon = yum!) and just ‘being’, no pressure or rush to being anywhere or doing…

Exercise

This is not something I normally do on a weekend. But I what do when it comes to exercise is that I don’t usually do it on the weekend. It could be that when I do exercise it is mostly during the week. Perhaps part of me also sees it as work. I don’t know…

Sport

Whenever I can I watch sport. Rugby and cricket are my thang… I used to play squash almost every Saturday morning, but since moving to Cape Town I haven’t found a squash home, which is something I need to get to.

Reading

I love words. Not just creating with them but consuming. I do a lot of reading on Medium. I read blogs and books. Reading just fills me up. Particularly the kind of reading that is not imposed on me, as in assignments or research.

Music

I don’t just listen to music. I devour it. I drink deeply of it. I listen for everything in every piece. It just fills me up. I love all music (except for country and anything with screaming or growling). I listen to different genres and allow myself to just enjoy it.

Out

Ingrid and me are all for great outings. Excursions, hitting museums, touring small towns and delving into their history, markets, live performances, great food and  places…

I love trips that aren’t too far yet close enough to feel as if we’ve travelled far.

Community

Connecting with friends at great restaurants or braai (Southern African word for barbecue) handing in the park, at the beach or harbour… Company can make such a huge difference…

Thus

I guess it take varied things for me to recharge. It mostly depends on what has happened in the week. For instance, if I’ve been around people the greater part of the week, I tend to want solitude and silence. I just want to be at home and not be bothered. If most of my activity has been in isolation, I normally want to be around people.

Some things, like being with Ingrid, music and writing are very standard. That is great any weekend.

What do you do to recharge on a weekend?

image: Takashi Hososhima | cc