Beyond Ourselves

 

We love these kind of stories. This is a story about one person becoming a hero while making the dream of another come true. It is in the moments we decide that people are more important than our own pride that we get to make a difference that matters. Acting beyond ourselves is something humanity has always, and always be moved by and celebrated.

It is the selfless legacies we celebrate the most; people who put others first. Something that disturbs, distresses me, is how easy it is for us to see others as being the ones to make a difference. Why can’t we all see ourselves as those being able to make the difference we know is needed?

Many of us are not willing to act beyond ourselves because we don’t see past ourselves. We don’t see ourselves being the heroes we celebrate. I use heroes in a practical, non-romantic way.

hero |ˈhɪərəʊ|

noun (pl.heroes)

a person, typically a man, who is admired for their courage, outstanding achievements, or noble qualities

Simply put: heroes are people who act beyond themselves for the good of others. Though rather utopian for some, but it is a reality we all can embrace and live out.

Momentary selflessness can be destiny altering for those who benefit from it. The reward of putting others before ourselves is greater than putting ourselves first.

If everyone cared and nobody cried
If everyone loved and nobody lied
If everyone shared and swallowed their pride
Then we’d see the day when nobody died

— Nickelback, If Everyone Cared

Have I stopped to ask myself questions that have less to do with what I want for myself and what others need?

It just ain’t the same, old ways have changed
New days are strange, is the world insane?
If love and peace are so strong
Why are there pieces of love that don’t belong?

— Black Eyed Peas, Where Is The Love 

The questions aren’t and should never be an expression of despair but a war-cry summoning all of us to act. The question to stop asking is, “What is wrong?”. The question we should all be asking ourselves, and acting on is, “What can I do?”.

 

[featured image: Cristian Bernal]

 

Why I Publish The Imperfect

If you’ve read anything I’ve written it is possible you’ve seen one way or another I could be better as writer. I’m aware I’m not the best writer there is or was. I’m also not among the best of communicators.

Knowing this doesn’t stop me from publishing. I have published both decent and crappy material in different places. If you’ve been victim of some of my incoherent, incomplete, nonsensical and weak writing, I’m sorry but I’m not.

I always work at writing better. I read and write more to grow as a writer and publisher. But this doesn’t mean I do not or will not publish the imperfect.

After reading some of my posts I had to ask myself why I publish the imperfect. I write and publish the imperfect posts for a few reasons. Here are some of them:

Me

Yes, I publish imperfect posts for me. I’ve said it before that foremost, I write for myself. This is, of course, relates to platforms or channels that are exclusively mine.

I won’t labour this point because it is something I have written about before.

I write to clarify my thinking. Often I don’t know what I think about something till I write about it. Writing is a form of processing.

But why do I proceed to publish? Let me continue…

Better

I go as far as publishing the imperfect so others can help me get better. Publishing opens some of my thoughts to the world. With this, is an invitation for people to engage and inspire different perspectives.

Courage

I hope to write many books. I already have an idea for a few already. Publishing is one of the most vulnerable things any writer can do.

The point of writing the way bloggers and other authors do, is not just about themselves. It is about others. It is about stretching others’ thinking as much as the creators’.

I publish the imperfect as a way of building a thick skin when it comes to having my work critiqued.

Continue

I write and publish the imperfect so that I can keep writing. Huh?! Yes, If I’m not publishing it is possible that I will stop creating. Publishing pushes me to get better.

Publishing makes me want to better my writing because I want others to see the progress I’m making.

Scary

I write and publish the imperfect because it still scares me. I need to make myself uncomfortable so that I don’t get in my own way. I guess scaring myself helps me to face other risks as I take on challenges.

Difference

I’m convinced it is not only the perfect that changes the world. For example, most inventions exist and make a difference to people’s lives not because every step was perfect.

Some of the things that have inspired me have been messy, ugly and in need of a lot of refinement. If someone’s writing can do that for me, why can’t mine for others?

 

Related:

Unmasked (One of my most extensive answers)

Why Online Publishing Matters For Individuals And The World

3 Ways to Protect Your Ideas From Yourself

How I’ve Managed To Blog For A Long Time

On Blogging, After Blogging For Years

[image: Milestoned]

Laughs On Technology

Technology is so embedded into our lives; a part of us. It is a natural extension of ourselves in the way it helps us communicate and relate to each other.

It’s almost senseless how our happiness can be on the basis on how well our devices, the Internet and even social media platforms, work. Flat batteries on our devices could mean a ruined day. Separation anxiety and feelings of isolation have been reported to be some of the things people experience…

Laughs from the belly inspire tear-filled eyes from a consumption of cat videos and such. Technology, thanks for cat videos!

In some respects technology has made life easier. And, in others more complicated.

We can become slaves to technology. We forget that it should serve us and not the other way around. We can’t let our joy and peace be governed by what it is or cannot do for us.

This is why we need to remember that life does not consist because of technology. You can’t take your gadgets and tech so seriously you don’t laugh.

I just love Ronnie! What a skit! Hope you had a laugh like I did.

What People Aren’t Anticipating In Mayweather vs Pacquiao Fight

 

So many predictions are on: who will win. Everyone showing the slightest interest has an opinion and prediction. This fight, at least for me, is the biggest one since Tyson vs. Holyfied.

An interesting thing, though, is that peoples’ predictions on the outcome are mostly around who they think will win. One possible outcome that I haven’t heard anyone give is a draw.

Here’s an outcome not many people are anticipating in the #MayweatherPacquiao fight [Click to Tweet]

What about factoring in a draw?! Though I’m not the best analyst or critic, I think it’s possible.

What are your thoughts?

featured image: bfurnace

 

 

On Opinions And Fact

It’s no doubt all the billions of individuals on the planet have options. In fact I’ve written about how “Opinion Shortage” will never make headline. Ever!

From the Fergueson in America, to Xenophobia in South Africa, to the earthquakes in Nepal and a host of other subjects. Pick a subject and opinions will greet your ear drums.

From what some consider art, to the economy, to what is funny and what isn’t. Trivia and life in general… For every issue there’s a myriad of opinions. Everyone is a critic and always will be. Truth: not every critique is helpful either.

On Opinions And Fact

Besides the number of opinions, another problem I have is that too many people mistake opinion with fact. Opinions, despite their emphasis or their expression, do not necessarily constitute fact or truth.

You know how we all can pull a statistic out of thin air and speak about it as if it was something thoroughly investigated and interrogated? As if not enough, we then proceed to speak and even act on the basis of that “statistic”! Ludicrous!

Too many mistake opinion for fact [Click to Tweet]

Repeating opinions doesn’t necessarily make them true. And because they’re opinions it doesn’t necessarily mean they are true.

Smell your own armpits – African Proverb [Click to Tweet]

I love this African proverb. Mom used this on my siblings and I. The idea behind it, is to check yourself. Be honest with yourself. Assess yourself.

How does this relate to opinions and facts? I’m glad you asked. Don’t hold onto your opinions so firmly. How strongly you feel about something may not be always wrong or true.

Don’t think of yourself or your opinions too highly. I must constantly remind myself never to share my opinion as fact. This is not only important in my relationships but also in leading others.

I must state my opinions as that, only. Nothing more. I could easily betray trust of those I lead by sharing them as truth and fact.

A lesson for everyone, really: you’re not all that and are capable of self-deceit. Believing you’re impervious, regardless of the dose, of self-deceit as far as your opinions are concerned is the epitome of arrogance. That is usually followed by a notable crash.

Unless you can hold your opinions lightly, you can easily ignore truth or fact to your peril. On opinions and fact, listen to everyone, but don’t be so quick to believe everyone, and this includes yourself.